6. Hanife

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This honour killing issue is widespread in Turkey. Especially in the east. But is is part of tradition, you know.. We cannot change it.

Punish someone.. OK! But kill someone because of their one fault?! That is a problem.
On the one hand we say that our parents love us so much, they would sacrifice very much for us, on the other hand some parents commit such honour-killings.

And the men of the house are responsible for the killing/execution. I do not blame them for that. As I said, it is their tradition. They exist with their traditions, like everyone else.

I find something very unfair: the situation of the mother. I am absolutely sure that Hanife's mother got upset(I don't know what kind of word I should write here), got really destroyed due to her daughter's death. You know, even she wants to shout, cry, scream at the people who commit this action, they don't listen to her. This is a really awful situation for the mother unfortunately.

To be a good person is really important. Not the material/shallow side like whether someone has black skin or their fingers are extraordinary tall (such silly things, I mean).

And I agree with the group at one point from today's presentation:
If Hanife would have been alive and had a child, she would be more liberal about her child's decisions and life style..

5.About our Presentation and Oedipus Complex

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Hmm.. I think our presentation went well. We have made a good job, haven't we?:D

My group is super! I thank everyone of them: Ayşe, Berk and Elif.

Thanks to the audience that paid attention and then enriched our presentation with their comments&answers.

I recall something from our preparation for this presentation and Ayşe, I have to reveal it, don't get agry with me:D

We were searching some photos for the slide show, then one night Ayşe sent us an image under which she says "Here, I've found a picture of Oedipus"

That sounds as if Oedipus had lived once and had his picture taken somewhere! :) However, it is just a work of a Renaissance artist.

We all know that Ayşe didn't mean that :D. But it was funny..

And we failed in timing:( However, we will manage it in our next presentation.

About Oedipus Complex: I really like Freud's theories and approaches. However, I don't like his Oedipus Complex theory. I cannot accept it:)

But the story was great though:D

4. Mum's the Word

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Stereotypes, stereotypes, stereotypes.. This word is really common especially last a few decades. You know, like everyone else I have some stereotypes too. But I cannot blame somebody for having some. Because humans have HUMAN MIND you know and human mind can fly anywhere, it is free, and there is no possible way to keep it in one way.

Let me explain this way: This summer, we went to one of our acquaintance's house. They live in the ground house and we were sitting at the table in front of the entrance of the building. Their building is next to another building which is used as a restaurant. And restaurant's entrance door and our buildings door is very close to each other. Because of the position of our door, restaurant's door wasn't seen as well and clear as ours. Consequently, people who wanted to get into the restaurant picked the 'obvious' door to enter.. Later on, we hung a sign on which it says the direction of the restaurant's door. But that didn't work either! People kept attempting to get in through our door. So, what does that show?

People act mostly with respect to their thoughts in their mind! No matter what we hung, they just kept trying to enter the restaurant through the wrong door. Once they have something in their mind, they become blind, they don't see anything else. And it is also like this on stereotypes. Everybody has them. Nobody could deny it.. I have an image in my mind and even if I whisper to myself that I can/should get this image out of my mind and observe the world objectively/without prejudice, I fail. Everybody fails. We try to take stereotyping under control but mostly we cannot do it. Because we have stereotyping within our heads!

The newspaper ZAMAN has had a motto recently: "Önyargılarımız, görünmeyen duvarlarımız", which can be translated as "Our prejudices, they are our invisible walls".
Although I never support this newspaper (because of their ideological background), I liked their motto.

To conclude, I state that stereotyping is natural for us. Nevertheless, I do not glorify it. Even we try to get rid of stereotypes, we will have them for ever. We will have them when a person talking with an eastern accent asks us an address on an empty street.. There is no way out.

However, I always trust in personal interaction. If we try to get to know somebody, if we talk to them face to face, then there is no more wall to crash on. The most important thing is to accept people individually and as they are, which should be an attempt to make for us like to try to throw our stereotypes away. If we attempt this, stereotypes will be able to disappear on their own, I guess.

3. The Research Paper Rationale

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After a brief decision period, I made mine. I am going to write a research paper on STEREOTYPING. I have chosen that because I find this subject contemporary. Stereotyping is everywhere on Earth. It occurs in society, in our relationships etc. If affects our way of thinking quite a lot. Often we act and make decisions referring to our stereotypes.

For example when we meet somebody, thanks to our tendency to stereotyping, we get immediately some pre-images from them. That is not so good, I think.

What about other options that I haven't chosen?

About adolesecence: Nowadays, I don't want to be in a bad mood. I couldn't put up with some melancholic adolescent's daydreams. When I think of adolescence, I imagine dready, sad thoughts, wandering around on Earth with dark skin and sleepy eyes and being hurt when collide with each other because of their vulnerability. I imagine a head bowed down and wet eyes. (Maybe this what I have said is also a stereotype) So, I prefer to keep this subject away from me.

About the violence subject: It is contemporary, too. However, I wanted to research something global. So, the stereotyping subject is GLOBALER than honour-killings in Turkey etc.

I hope this research paper will bring me some benefit and enjoy.